Wedding Vows - some help would be great

HI eveyone i am new to this site and not to sure on where to post this thread well i am getting married in 2008 and could please do with some help from you. I am looking for nice poems or vows to say at our wedding that will include Deceased parents/family members that cant be at our wedding. we are also lighting a candle in memory of my Hd mother as she passed away in September this year of cancer i am finding it hard to find a poem or vows that has the whole lot rolled in to one and i cant really talk to my hd to be could ever time i do he gets upset which i can understand. so that is why i thought i would try this forum. we are also so doing a photo borad with all the family member that have passed away and have a candle that will burn all night. so now i just need to find that poem. i know some of it when like this: As we are standing here today infront of family and friends. and i cnat think of the rest. so i would really love your help. but i do know that somewhere out there i found it in a forum i just dont know which one. i did have it all my wedding vows and poems to give bridemaids and so on that some how i lost the lost and man it made me mad so now i have to try and find it all again and would love it if you ladys and guys could help me out that would be great.

I can't really help you, but good luck in finding what you're after. Just a thought, are you overdoing it a bit? I mean weddings are for celebration and you're lighting a candle and reading a poem about dead people. I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but I think a candle and a picture would do just fine. That's my personal opinion though.

I agree with siren. Just light a candle and have a picture of them in a frame around the candle and light the candle at the beginning of the aisle before you walk down or at the end of the aisle when you meet you're FH (whichever you prefer). If you want to do a poem I suggest you do it maybe during the wedding shower before you give you're gifts to you're family and friends. If you do it during the wedding it will just seem awkward and be more like a funeral than a wedding. It will become more sad than joyous which is what you definitly don't want! I hope I helped. :D

hey is this the one you are after?? Although we can't see you We know you are here Smiling down, watching over us As we say "I DO" Forever in our hearts Forever in our lives And so we say our vows In loving memory of you.

lisaandmatt2792008 thanks i like that one but not really the one i am looking for but i really do like it and thanks 4 the input froe the rest of you and i do knwo what you both mean but my fh want to do something like that

Me and my FH are lighting memorial candles in the very beginning of the ceremony,the Pastor will say something very brief to acknowledge them and then we proceed w/the exchanging of vows the Pastor says his part and then our unity candle is lit.

In another post someone mentioned leaving the seats they would have been sitting in, and placeing a rose on that seat when they walked down, I like the subtel touch, like that, that way know one gets to emotional over the loss when they should be rejoycing in your begining.

I remember that.I still want to do it but it may not work with the space we have.We don't even have seats.It's a sweet ideal.

Rosalie, I think the candles are just as nice of an idea.

I have been having similar issues. My mother passed away a few years ago from cancer as well. I am probably going to light a candle with a picture as I walk down the aisle. I want it to be something subtle, acknowledged, but not overly emphasized. I also decided not to give favors, but instead, I am using the money to make a donation in everyone's name to the foundation my dad works for in the name of my mom. It is a very touchy subject. Since it was your FH's mother, he needs to decide what he is comfortable with... I hope this helps :)

[QUOTE=steelcutter2003eeda]Rosalie, I think the candles are just as nice of an idea.[/QUOTE] I know.:mad:

[quote=bellavista]I know.:mad:[/quote] Hey waht is the angry face for?

What about if it's one of your children that has passed away? My oldest daughter died seven years ago. My living daughter is 5, and my FH's son will be 13. We want the kids in our wedding, and we're working on the vows to include them....any idea of how to remember my oldest daughter without making the ceremony depressing? We're thinking of a small outdoor wedding....probably won't have chairs or candles.... Maybe I'll use the poem posted earlier in this post, I just want some mention of her.... Thanks for any suggestions.

Sorry for your loss. I think some kind of rememberance poem would be a nice way to honor her memory, perhaps a poem that she liked?

that's a nice idea about reading a poem.... I like that, thanks

I was recently asked by a friend where to go online to get helpful wedding tips. I told my girlfriend to take a look at The Clergy Network. She also wants to look at different Marriage officiants to see which one best suits her and her fiancés needs. I told her “you should consider having someone write your wedding vows”. She’s a quiet gal and doesn’t like to speak much so she’ll probably need some help in that area. Actually since her boyfriends family is mainly Spanish speaking she’s looking at bilingual ministers which I think is a good idea. If she follows my advice and does her online research and shopping she’ll save a lot of time which is what every bride to be is short on.

We have decided to place photos of my parents and his mother on our table in remembrence. My oldest sister thinks this is not a good idea as this is a joyous occcassion. She said my parents have been deceased too long and his mother passed four years ago. I would like to know what other brides think. The weddding is 45 days away!!