The Bridal Party - MOH Delima Sister or Best friend

My sister is assuming that she will be my MOH. Im really not sure that I want her to be my MOH she does not act that happy for me. And Her daugheter is quite sick and need surgery at the moment so I think she needs to deal with that. I have 2 friends that I have been close with over the past 15 years Jess and Cass. Jess recently seperated from her husband after 2years and it seams that she does not act very happy for me and is telling me often that I should not get married at all. Cass and I kind of lost connections over the pat 3 years but recently have gotten connected again and she acts quite happy for me though she just had a baby and a lot of her time is devoted to the new baby I'm really torn as to what to do. I also dont know at this point if I should even included Jess at all let alone have her for the MOH please give me some advice. Thanks the Wedding is 11 months away..

My recommendation is that you take your sister out to lunch, or coffee and just explain that you would like for her to be your maid of honor, but you don't feel that she is happy for your current situation. Then sit down with your friend Jess and let her know that you are sorry that her marriage did not work out, but she needs to be a good best friend and stop discouraging your happiness. Don't exclude your sister because of her daughters illness, or your separated friend because of her separation. Just try to get them to realize their actions are hurting your feelings and hope they can change. if not, Have Cass as your MOH, and find 2 other friends to be your bridesmaids.