The Bridal Party - Drunken bridesmaid! Help!

My fiance has three sisters.He wants all of them in the wedding. I have no problem with two of the sisters but the third one is an alcoholic. I totally can't trust her. She dosn't like me because I don't approve of her lifestlye.I want to be gracious but I don't think I can handel her drama . Should I put my foot down with my fiance and tell him she can't be in our wedding?

Explain your reservations to your fiance. He should be understanding enough to see that you don't want her as part of your wedding party. Then, appease them both by finding something "important" for her to do, like guest book attendant. (If she really doesn't like you, I wouldn't suggest gift attendant, but that's just me.) This way, you honor the relationship with her without taking the risk. I mean, seriously, how badly could she screw up a guest book? The other thing you could do is that my fiance and I agreed to pick our own attendants based on our own criteria. He has no siblings, so that made that part easier, but I did not choose to include either my sister or ask him to include my brother in the main attendants. My last suggestion, if it's going to be a huge issue to not include her as an attendant, then ask her, but make it very clear what behavior you find acceptable (possibly even when you get all of your bridesmaids together for a meeting) and that you will ask people to leave if they are not following that code of behavior. Put someone in charge on the day of the wedding of babysitting her (maybe even one of the other sisters?) and alerting your FH if she acts up so he can ax her from the wedding. If it is his request, then he has to deal with the consequences.

Thanks for the advice. My FH had a talk with her a few days ago and I didn't ask details but he told me she didn't want to be in our wedding. I was a little sad for him but happy it worked out that way. I didn't have to come out looking like a witch and now I can relax about it. Everyone in his family understands where I'm coming from too. :)

Absolutely.I had to remove my MOH and a BM because of similar reasons.They were close friends, but they just did not want to participate as needed.If you want to deal with No Shows, and the behavior of a mind poisoned by the disease of alcoholism, let her join.If not, stand strong.The process will be so much less stressful.I have learned that if your friends and family do not respect you enough to honor your marriage, then they need to be left out.Some will understand, some won't.Your husband will be with you til the end- and that is what matters most.

My future mother inlaw isn't happy but I can't worry about it. Now I don't even think I want th sister at the wedding at all. Shes telling other relatives shes going to show up drunk and do what she wants. I will not let her ruin my wedding. Do you think thats reasonable? Or should I just have somone ready to escort her out if there is drunken nonsense?

I would have someone there to escort her out of there. Its your wedding and if that is how she wants to act. You have every right to kick her our. Just remember its your big day that you will remember for the rest of your life! Good Luck! Oh, Don't worry about your mother-in-law, she will get over it!

You're right. I'm soooooooo over that drama. I can't have my wedding memories clouded by some drunken nonsense.