General Etiquette - Re: September 11th Wedding?

i am planning an "Eleventh of September" wedding. im extremely excited. september 11th doesnt have to be a horrible day forever. im pretty sure that if you looked back in history, there is probably something horrible that happend on every day of the year! we are making the day a happy day for us. the events of the day will be forever in everyones memory - and we are simply helping everyone remember that even good can come out of bad. When the date comes around in 2005, and people sit and remember the horrible event in 2001, they will begin to think of the wedding they went to where two people were joined together in love for the rest of their lives. negativity? i cant think of anything negative about my wedding day.i just smile when they ask "why would you pick that day?" and say "Why not?" best wishes! Kay

I think it depends on what part of the country you live in. In NY/NJ that date was wide open when I was looking for a reception place. In this area it does have a negative connotation to it, because most people know somebody who was killed. It's a very somber day out here still, and that's why the date is wide open. Again, I don't know what state you're in, so it might not be the same.

This may come to the forefront this year as 9-11 is on a wekend. Personally, I wouldn't do it. I don't live on the east coast or anything but I will never forget that morning, driving in to work, and first hearing the news on the car radio. AS generations before us will never forget when they heard JFK was shot, I will NEVER forget that day. Even what I was wearing, though I have since donated those clothes to Goodwill (NOT because of that, because I lost weight and they were too big. Even so...I am not sure I could have worn them again...). MY big day is actually Sept. 10. I can tell you what we did that Monday (went to the local tavern and had free tacos) and watched Monday Night Football (I know the Giants were playing) and we went home at halftime and I will NEVER forget as long as I live being all drowsy and trying to stay awake and watch football and then drifting off to sleep. And then the next morning, my whole world changed. OUR whole world changed. There isn't a day that goes by when I am watching the news or C-SPAN and some politician or journalist says "WE DON'T LIVE IN THAT SEPT 10, 2001 WORLD ANYMORE that I don't pause, or cry because dang it, we DON'T. And I am SO MAD that we don't. And I am even more mad that we never will again know that lazy, sleepy time when I tried to stay awake to watch a football game. For weeks and weeks and weeks I watched TV (and as we all know, there was nothing on but NEWS, 24/7) and I thought if I shut my eyes long enough or covered my ears long enough, I would wake up and see the end of that Monday night football game. Because I never did see the end of that game, you see. I don't know if I ever heard a final score, days later. And if I did, I doubt that I cared. All I will ever remember is rounding the curve at I-680 and Dodge Street by Huber Chevrolet and hearing Roger Olsen on KFAB radio saying "we're delaying the market report due to news out of New York" and the morning talk show hosts saying "WE don't know what is happening; we'll wait until the top of the hour when we join ABC news." I'm so sorry, I have held all of that in for nearly three years. Have a wedding on 9-11-04 if you want. personally, me, I generally sit in front of the TV with a beer and watch the news on that day. And pray it never happens again; and wonder why it ever happened in the first place.

I live in Canada and my wedding date is September 11. The whole world was shocked by that date but you cannot let it ruin your day. I remember reading that the "Terrorists will not bring the people of NY down" so it should be the same about your wedding day. People have been married on that day and have birthdays on that day aswell and they still have to celebrate. I plan to have a moment of silence in rememberance and spend the rest of my day celebrating my marriage. Have a good day, make it a fun day but also have a moment of silence and celebrate.

There really is nothing wrong with a September 11th wedding. September 11, 2004 will be a wonderful day because you're getting married. Yes, September 11, 2001 was a horrific day in our history that we will never forget. But its in our history. Let's not live in the past, but look forward to a bright future by remembering the past, not dwelling or living in it. [QUOTE=JR]Is anyone else considering a September 11th wedding? How are you handling oter people's negaivity toowards it?[/QUOTE]

I THINK IF YOU WANT TO HAVE YOUR WEDDING ON SEPTEMBER 11TH GO FOR IT. SURE, TERRIBLE THINGS HAPPENED ON THAT DAY BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN GOOD THINGS CAN'T HAPPEN THEN TOO. wHAT ABOUT PEARL HARBOR, PEOPLE STILL GET MARRIED OIN THAT ANNIVERSARY. THE ONLY REASON THAT ISN'T WHEN I'M GETTING MARRIED IS THAT IT IS MY FIANCE'S BIRTHDAY. HE TURNED 18 ON THAT DREADFUL DAY.

I had originally considered having my wedding on September 11th. We decided aganist it because of course the events that happened,however I do not think that there is anything wrong with having your wedding on September 11th. :p

My philosophy is when something bad enough happens to mark an anniversery, do something wonderful on that anniversery so you won't have bad memories of that day. Most likely, if you get married on Sept. 11th, you'll have mostly happy memories when the anniversery comes around.

Don't let what happened on 9/11 defer you from having a day of your dreams. It was a terrible thing, and I feel for the people affected by it, but if thats the date you want to have your wedding, then go ahead. Maybe some people will stop looking at that day with so much sadness when their new memory will be of you walking down the asile that day.

[QUOTE=JR]Is anyone else considering a September 11th wedding? How are you handling oter people's negaivity toowards it?[/QUOTE] I am in a string trio and played a Sept 11 wedding this year, and in 2002, they were both beautiful and there was a prayer said at each one for people in harm's way , without mentioning the 2001 attack specifically. Don't let other people's opinions hurt you, its not their special day. You have your reasons for choosing that day, have confidence in your decision. Life goes on and people still have lots to celebrate.

If that is the day you want, then go for it. it is your wedding and that is what it is important. Personally, I wouldn't have a wedding on that day only because it is too close to some of my family members. I had 7 family members that day that should of been there. Small twists of fate kept all of them safe. I will never forget getting the calls all day saying " I am ok". Those members of my family lost friends and co-workers. I know it is difficult for them because they should of been there and weren't. They go through feelings of guilt. It just wouldn't be a day for celebration for them.

Both me and my finace decided, after having to push our wedding back from March 2010, to have it on Sept. 11 2010. Why?? Because why should we let those "people" who attacked our nation to rule the day?? Werent we supposed to learn from the attack and value love, unity, friendship, family and everything good?? Our wedding is that. It's about love and family and friends. What about Pearl Harbor Day. Thats Dec. 7 and it was a tragedy in our nation's history. Yet people get married on that day as well. We need to make Sept. 11 not about tragedy but about healing.

I think that you should do wedding in September 11, but it's should be with nice memorial and honor.